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How a Photo Captured the Moment My Niece Learned She Was Not Equal

It’s in the seemingly innocuous things that young children start to form ideas about who they are and their place in this world. Read More

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On Feeling the Rage of Generations of Women

Our Work is not only in the conversations, but in moving through the emotions that these interactions bring, by allowing the space for the complete range of emotion—and not just the pleasant ones. Read More

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Things Are Not Always What They Seem

Having spent the entire week eating all of the typical dishes made vegetarian or vegan and from the freshest local foods, I filled myself with prana covered in the most divine olive oil. Read More

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How Yelling at God Freed My Soul

I allowed the Divine to see the most shameful parts of me, and the Divine never let me go. I was instead held tighter and shown more Love than I can even comprehend or adequately express. Read More

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What Are You Eating to Create the Life You Want?

When you are eating the same food, it creates a level internal playing field in terms of what you are ingesting and digesting, as well as the energy created by it. Read More

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Radical Responsibility Starts with Clarity

What change is it that you desire? The focused desire of the Light has to equal and outweigh the focused desire of the Shadow. Read More

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Neutrality Does NOT Mean Complacency

In times of change, the best way that we can serve the world is to strive to get to an emotionally neutral place and trust that Heaven is on our side. This does NOT mean staying quiet. This means stating TRUTH without emotional charge—so that it can be heard and felt clearly by all who are on the receiving end of it. Read More

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Peace, Love, and the B Word

Watching someone you love go through a hard time can be painful and upsetting, especially when you can feel what they are going through or intuitively know what they need. I’m not talking about coming from a place of judgement or your own experience. I’m talking about genuine intuitive knowing of and feeling into what they need to make the situation better.

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For those of us who are empathetic, watching another unravel and witnessing their unwillingness to make changes is even more painful than going through the situation ourselves.
We are not only feeling their pain, but we feel completely powerless to do anything to change it. We see the path that will lead them to happiness and peace, but cannot force them to walk it.


So many people that I know (myself included) have at some point been so deeply affected by another person’s pain that we have become shells of ourselves, doing everything in our power to help them to the point of our own depletion. One day, we look in the mirror and don’t recognize ourselves anymore. We are super thin or holding a lot of weight, not sleeping, not taking care of ourselves—health, hair, skin, etc.

While it is true that we need to give another the dignity of his own process, it is not true that we are completely powerless.

Here are 5 things that I’ve found help me maintain my peace and balance in the midst of someone else’s insanity, in no particular order:

  1. Let him know that you Love him no matter what. Let him know that you are always going to Love him, no matter what choices he makes. It really helps each of us to know that there is one person out there who will not judge us and will be there if and when the bottom drops out.

  2. Keep your mouth shut. (This includes your energy.) Really. Keep your mouth shut unless asked for your opinion. This will prevent you from getting swept into the whirlwind of he said, she said. IF you are going to say something, say it directly to the person, and not behind his back.

  3. Pray and send positive thoughts, whatever this looks like for you. Pray for the best possible outcome for the person. Note: What you think is the best possible outcome might not be right for him. Be open to what the Universe has in store and let go of your limited perspective.

    If prayer is not your thing, send Love, visualize, and FEEL him being happy, healthy, full of joy, and free.

  4. Employ boundaries. Manage your own energy by deciding what is right for you in terms of things like communication, exposure, and setting. Set up your experience so that you do not feel depleted at the end of an interaction. If a conversation is wearing on you, excuse yourself and take a breather.

  5. Remove yourself from the situation. There are some times where you might just have to remove yourself completely. This does not mean that you close off the connection of Love, but it does mean that you Love yourself enough to do what is best for you at the time. This could be temporary, or long-term, depending on the situation.
In order to show up as your best self and to be able to hold the energy and the light for someone else, you need to have boundaries. This is a dirty word to so many HSPs. It seems counterintuitive for so many of us who feel that it is our Purpose to help others to say, “That is enough” and stop a situation before our energy is sucked dry and we are depleted.

Boundaries are important, and it is equally important to remember that they are moveable. You can pick and choose where thy go and when they are needed and do not have to explain them to anyone else.

Trust me on this. I’ve tested it. As long as you put Love first (for yourself and others) things will always work out for the best.



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Why the Divine Feminine Would Not Let Me Watch Gymnastics

Before I say anything, let me first say that this whole year has been an undertaking in embodying feminine energy and anchoring the Divine Feminine. Let me also say that if I had realized what I was signing on for, I might have run screaming in the opposite direction. Thank Universe that she knows how to package these experiences in an appealing way that makes me go, "OOOOOOOH, shinyyyyy!" and then *BOOM* suddenly I am eyeballs-deep in transformation.


Feminine Energy?

Each of us—no matter how we identify gender-wise—is made up of masculine and feminine energy. When I refer to the masculine energy, I am referring to the pushing energy. The "let's get stuff done energy." The "work harder, more, do it NOW" energy. There great benefits to this energy, unless it becomes out-of-balance. Then we have a situation like our current patriarchal society—where we are living primarily in fear, separateness, unconsciousness, and, ultimately, control.

When I refer to the feminine energy, I am speaking of the energy of compassion, creation, incubation, oneness, love energy. This, too, can be problematic when out-of-balance because there is not much action.

Both are needed in conjunction for us to function at our best—individually, and societally.

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Where the Olympic Games Come In


This year, while watching the Olympics, I found myself utterly captivated by the swim events. I used to be a swimmer, and my body and all of her cells were remembering what it felt like to glide through the water as I was watching. The movements were long, fluid, powerful, and filled with grace—all aspects of feminine energy. The athletes seemed to be working in harmony with the water, though I knew how much energy it took for each of them to complete a race.

Each of them exuded happiness and peace. They expressed a Love and complete devotion for what they were doing and all of the work it took to get there.

Then, one night, I finally caught a gymnastic event. I was super excited because I also used to be a gymnast, and these have always been my favorite Olympic events. (My gymnastic career ended at the ripe old age of 7, but that is a story for another day.)

As soon as the beam routines started, I realized something had shifted.
These 5 things became apparent:


1. The masculine energy of pushing runs this sport. Every movement that each gymnast made appeared forced, strenuous, and staccato. AND, the effects of stress, training, and pressure were showing on their faces and their bodies.

2. These athletes are not happy. I could feel the intense pressure on them from their coaches and from themselves. No matter how big of a smile was on any of their faces, their eyes and bodies were filled with pressure and tension. It was so obvious to me this year, which got me wondering, “How much pressure and tension was I carrying, that I never before noticed this?”

3. People have the ability to change their physical appearance through focus. My lifelong admiration for gymnasts gave me the idea of what an athletic body looked like—short, squat, very muscular, and slightly masculine. And this is what I would look like every time I started going to a gym regularly.   

Over the course of a couple of years, I have changed my idea of what an athletic build looks like and the way I work out. My exercise pace has become much more regular, easy, and grace-filled. (It is also a thousand times more effective. Again, more to come on that at a later date!) My body has changed. It has become longer, more toned, and I have begun to look much more feminine.

4. This no longer feels good. Just like with swimming, my body was again feeling the movements of the athletes. Every time there was a landing, I felt the effects of the pounding and gravity on my system. This was all rooted in a very masculine energy and was no longer resonant in my system. The routines were no longer appealing to my eye, which made it very uncomfortable for me to watch.

5. When it is time to let something go, Bless and Release. I could have sat there and forced myself to watch the rest of the routines, but after the third one I was very uncomfortable and just wanted out. As a Highly Sensitive Person, my instinct is usually to continue to watch because they put so much time and effort into training, despite the negative effect this would have on me. Instead, I sent them well wishes from my heart and shut off the tv to go do something that fed my soul.

There are people in the world (and probably reading this) for whom gymnastics is a beautiful form of expression, and I honor that. I honor the sport and the talent and work it takes to get to the level of excellence that the Olympics require. However, because I am spending so much more time with the Divine Feminine than ever before, it no longer resonated with me. It is time for a much more fluid, supported, and flowing way of life.

I give myself permission to move forward and let go of what no longer serves me.

I give myself permission to feel into and experience what is right for me in this moment.

I give myself permission to let it be easy.

Where can you do the same for you?

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