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If you are reading this, you mist be the person your family and friends (and maybe even strangers) seek out for advice or intuitive hits. You might be wondering, however, why they don’t actually heed your pearls of wisdom once they are dispersed.
This can have several effects on us as people and as intuitive beings—not to mention that it is immensely frustrating. Here’s the thing: we are the know-it-alls of the world. You've probably even been called this once or twice in your lifetime, as if it were in insult. Well, it's not. It’s the truth, and I invite you to embrace it, just as I have.
Here’s the why: You have access to your intuition in a way that most of the population doesn’t…yet. So you DO KNOW.
One of the first things to examine when you’ve given a loved one a piece of advice that they have completely disregarded is, “Did this person ask for my input, or am I giving it to them, unsolicited?” Sometimes, when we can see the path so clearly for someone else, we share things with them because we desire to help make their journey easier. We are really well-intentioned, but the truth of the matter is that they didn’t ask for our input.
If they didn't ask for it, it means that they didn't really want it. They aren't ready or willing to hear it, and they have free will. So, when we do offer advice to those who didn’t ask, we know that there is a high likelihood we are setting ourselves up for frustration and disappointment. We can, asking them if they would like to hear what we might have to say gives them the opportunity to choose. If they do say yes, they are far likelier to accept what we are offering.
The next situation to examine is when people are asking for your advice, input, or guidance and are then disregarding it anyway. This is disheartening, and it can cause us to have a lot of doubts about who we are, our intuition, and the validity of the things we've learned, studied, or are passionate about.
Face it, you give incredible advice. You know this, I know this, but they don't necessarily know just yet. And it's their loss if they're choosing not to take it. This leads us to a few things we can explore.
When family or good friends are asking us for our advice, input, or intuition we need to realize that we already have another role. You are already brother, sister, daughter, father, mother, best friend, or whomever you have been up until this point.
For them to suddenly see you in this other role this other person is just not realistic. The fact that they can’t make that switch prevents them from hearing what you have to share because it is not your job to advise or to take care of them in this way. You already have your place in their life, and you are always going to be “sister” (or fill in your title) first, which makes you different (and oddly) less credible than someone who they are going to specifically for the guidance they are seeking—paid or unpaid.
This actually might not be a bad thing, since we mean well, but can sometimes be too emotionally attached to another to see things completely clearly. What we can do is stand by them, listen, and help them walk through in the roles that we already play in their life.
Another issue is that most people will choose the path pf least resistance. If you are reading this, you have done a lot of work on the self and are immersed in growth and change. You know the positivity that comes out of it, and that makes the hard work worthwhile. But, most people will choose the easiest way to get through or around something. They are often afraid to go within because they don’t know what is buried there. They are also afraid to stand in their own power because then there will be no one else to blame anymore. That alone is terrifying to many.
The path of healing that comes through self-exploration is often much more intense and often takes more time. It's also more thorough, because you're working from the issue out as opposed to from the symptoms in but it's also much more intimidating to people. Just know that people will take the path of least resistance whenever it is offered to them.
These are just some things to look at when you feel that your advice is being thrown by the wayside. However, know that for every person who can't hear you, who can't receive your message for whatever reason, there are thousands of people who need to hear exactly what you have to say in the way that you say it. So. please keep going.
If you keep moving forward the people will find you. The magnetics will attract them, and you will be able to help in the way that you feel so called to, regardless of what your role or who you are in this lifetime.
SO MUCH LOVE.
Note: This blog post is based on a video which can be found here.